Nobody issued
you a manual
You are about to become a father, or you already are, and it turns out the world prepared you for almost none of it. This is the handbook you should have been given: what actually happens, what to do about it, and a room full of men who have been exactly where you are.
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Trying, expecting, newborn, toddler, teenagers, grown-up kids. Pick one for each child. A newborn and a fourteen-year-old is a normal combination and you will get both.
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39 entries that answer the actual question
Hospital bags, labour, the first 72 hours, safer sleep, paternity pay, and the stuff nobody warns you about. Checklists, not essays.
Men a few years ahead of you
Ask something at 3am and dads who have been through it answer. No brand voice, no professional cheerfulness.
And a laugh, because you need one
Weekly caption competition and memes throughout. Dark humour about how hard it is. Never at your partner's expense.
Straight from the manual
The hospital bag nobody packs for you
Hers is on a list in every magazine. Yours is not. Here is what you actually need for a stay that could last three days.
4 min readHow to be useful during labour
You cannot do the hard part. You can do about nine other things, and most men do none of them because nobody said.
5 min readThe first 72 hours at home
The hospital had staff, monitors and a button. Your house has you. A blunt plan for the three days that catch everyone out.
5 min readThe fourth trimester nobody mentions to you
The first twelve weeks change her, and they change you. Here is what is actually happening, in plain terms.
5 min readNobody knows it is you
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You are going to be fine.
You will just wish somebody had told you.
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